This week’s interview featured Dr. Sally Falwell: Licensed Psychologist and Practicing Therapist. She works primarily with adults who are experiencing large transitions in their lives. Her approach is rooted in positivity. She focuses on the growth mindset, habit change, and positive self talk. Visit her website at www.legacyacc.com!
Here is a recap of the 10 insights she shared:
1. Get someone in place to help you BEFORE a crisis hits. As humans, we have a tendency to think “that can’t happen to me!”. The truth is, we don’t know what will happen- or when!
2. See someone regularly. There is always personal work to be done whether you are in a high stress situation or not. It’s worthwhile to get skills into place while things are going well so that you can apply them during more difficult times.
3. Make sure you are connecting with people. Everyone is hurting in some way, and when you have connections, you’ll be able relate with others during painful experiences.
4. Dr. Falwell has a hard time planning ahead. This often leads to compromising things that are a priority to her.
5. To combat her struggle to plan ahead, she looks at calendar at the beginning of the week and reaches out to people who she would like to connect with. In terms of eating, she makes sure she has access to nutritious food so that she doesn’t go too long without eating and then resort to something that doesn’t fuel her body!
6. Myth: Going to therapy means that something is wrong with you. This belief keeps valuable help out of many people’s lives!
7. Getting perspective from a trusted source is extremely helpful. We are rich, complicated beings! We all need time to stop and focus on ourselves.
8. If you only have one minute for your health, pick three things that went well in your day, and contemplate why they went well. Dig deep! This pushes the brain and the heart to recognize your victories.
9. Dr. Farwell’s favorite quote: “I will not be stopped.” She made it up herself on a day when she did not feel up to doing the things she needed to do. Practicing this mantra might mean you take just one tiny step forward, or it might mean you have a super productive day!
10. Final value bomb: Look up your character strengths. VIA Institute on Character and Gallup Strengths Center are both great resources for this. (links below!) Knowing your strengths could save you from leaving something that you are GREAT at undone. There is lots you can do for free, but don’t stop there!
Now it’s your turn…What was your favorite takeaway from this interview? Who would you like to see as a future guest on Lyons’ Share 10/10?