Happy Motivation Monday! Last week we celebrated ourselves, and this week’s theme is related, but not the same. When I talked about celebrating ourselves, it was about looking at things we have already accomplished and pausing to recognize the wonderful things that we have done.
This week, I’d like you to think about the self-doubt that inhibits you from taking action towards accomplishing your goals in the first place. So many times, we let self-doubt overshadow our self-confidence, derail us from moving forward, and feel uncomfortable with ourselves. I’m sure you’ve been there: whether it was walking into a crowded room and thinking everyone might be looking at you because you looked stupid or were doing the wrong thing, giving a presentation at work and doubting that your boss would be impressed (despite the hours of hard work you poured into it), or telling yourself that there’s no way you’ll be able to eat healthily for a week or stop bingeing after dinner.
If you think about it, in most situations, that self-doubt does nothing but hurt you. You may still achieve your goal, but what if you had not spent the time and mental anguish worrying about how you couldn’t or wouldn’t before actually achieving? What if you felt truly confident in your abilities, your body, your personality? I challenge you to make that happen today – and all of this week – by recognizing and admitting your self-doubt, and squashing it with your self-confidence.(picture source)
I mentioned in my Brazil recap that I used to struggle (and still do, although I’ve improved a lot!) with negative self-talk. After a great conversation with Kevin this weekend, I picked out another book to read on the topic, called “The Pursuit of Perfect” by Tal Ben-Shahar (a professor at my alma mater). Although I’m not finished, it’s been amazing and eye-opening to read research on what I’ve known to be true for myself all along: that my inherent (very strong!) perfectionist tendencies contribute to me doubting myself, fearing failure, and telling myself that I may not be good enough (or smart enough, fast enough, pretty enough, well-liked enough … fill in the blank for any situation here). Ben-Shahar describes that the best situation is to be an “Optimalist,” which is basically a person with high aspirations (like a perfectionist) who also expects, recognizes, and accepts reality, and doesn’t consider every small failure a life-or-death situation. I have yet to learn what it takes to become an Optimalist (since I haven’t finished yet), but I thought I’d recommend the book in case any of you are interested! (picture source … I think this is one of my favorite quotes ever, and unfortunately I can’t find the “real” source!)
MMAZ: Simple Butternut Squash Dip
I know … it’s Monday, and I don’t usually share recipes on Mondays! But I love participating in Heather’s Meatless Monday A-Z, and the butternut squash chips I tried to make for Friday just didn’t work out, so I wanted to take another crack at this week’s ingredient: squash. (By the way, do you see what I did in the title? SQUASH Self-Doubt? I know…)
Anyway, it’s a good thing I did try again, because the result is delicious … and pretty much the simplest thing I’ve made in a while. You can throw it together in 5 minutes flat (after baking the squash), and I’ll bet that if you serve it at a party, your guests will think it’s far more complicated than it is. It’s creamy and rich, and complements fresh vegetables or crackers very well. Enjoy, and check out other squash recipes on Better with Veggies today!
So tell me in the comments … Do you deal with self-doubt? How do you squash it? And what’s your favorite recipe with squash?